If however, you want to understand the why of others then it’s best not to start with the actual word ‘why’

Why is it when you desperately need to pee you can’t hear what someone is saying?

You’re in a meeting with the regional department heads from across the country. Your boss walks in and is about to begin the meeting. You look up and notice she has spinach in her teeth.

Quite frankly it doesn't matter what you meant, it only matters what the other person heard.