Great leaders build engagement. Engagement in meetings requires contribution and involvement. Many leaders I work with complain of a lack of engagement from their team members during meetings, despite their best efforts. This is not always about their leadership or their teams’ engagement; often there are other factors at play.
Getting the best out of others is not an easy task. Helping your team members to be more effective, more productive, and more engaged is not always as simple as asking them to be so, or equipping them with the skills or support to be so. In fact, sometimes it’s not even about the very problem that’s causing the problem. To be an effective leader of people requires us to be flexible in the way we approach and support our people. Sometimes it even calls on us to allow the problem to get worse before it gets better.
The ability to think quickly is a highly valued skill in the workplace. People who respond to questions off the cuff, who make coherent contributions when called upon (without warning) or who always seem to know the right thing to say in the right moment to say it, are admired by many of us. Especially those of us who need more time to gather our thoughts.
Will power is a finite resource… peer power is infinite
Whilst people are different, unique and often surprising, in many ways we are equally predictable. It’s these patterns of behaviour that help me help my clients impact those around them in ways that build respect, visibility, trust, and engagement.
Here are some of the patterns I’ve noticed over the last 10 years. May this list fast track your own interpersonal impact and prepare you for the year ahead!
Not worrying about what other people think of you can be liberating. It can inspire you to be fearless, to be brave, and to push your own limits without having to kowtow to the beliefs, expectations and desires of others. When we learn to live according to our own values, we become better at what we do; more engaged in our endeavours, and more satisfied with our lives. And who doesn't want that??
Giving feedback to a boss is not always easy.