I came out of the womb talking. Well, not exactly straight out of the womb, but close enough.

By 18 months old I was a walking, talking mini human. I would have full blown conversations with startled and bemused adults. I can imagine it was quite a thing.

But just because I was comfortable with words, didn't mean I was able to express myself appropriately. I would tantrum and stone wall and try all the usual tricks kids do, in order to get my way. I would even use my Teddy Bear to apologise for my bad behaviour because I couldn't bring myself to own my actions.

Even into my 20’s I struggled to communicate my needs clearly. There were many moments (too many moments) where the silent treatment, or “I’m fine,” were my go-to method for expressing my displeasure or discomfort (and for that I sincerely apologise to friends, boyfriends and family members. I was an ar@63e at times! I’m sorry.)

But as I matured, so did my conversational skills. I learnt to express myself more clearly, take account for my behaviour and eventually ask for what I wanted. I no longer have to hide behind a teddy to say I’m sorry, and I no longer push down what I’m feeling and make someone dance around my emotional mood swings trying to guess what they’ve done, or what I need. I have (mostly) grown out of that.

But this journey taught me that being a good communicator is not just about being able to ‘talk’. It’s about the conversational skill to navigate the dynamics of the situation, to mind the relationship in front of you and have a willingness to show up, warts and all. Good communication takes effort, intention, and practice.

And luckily for mere mortals like me, it can be learnt. And so, I have dedicated my work to doing just that. I have spent my life pursuing the art and craft of conversation and connection. I have put in the time so you don't have too. I have made the mistakes, paid the price and done the work (and continue to do so!). So, if I can help you navigate the trials and tribulations of effective communication, just say the word. Any word. I’ll know what you mean.