You no doubt heard the reports, saw the photos, or watched the video. There was our Prime Minister, in a very public moment, being given the cold shoulder by the outgoing Australian of the Year, Grace Tame. It was clear, she was ‘not happy Jan’. Now, I’m not going to talk about whether that was the right thing to do, or the wrong thing to do by Grace. I’m not here to talk about the cause she is fighting for (weird I know, given it’s an IWD article), nor the politics of the day that led to this uncomfortable moment for the nation. Nay my friends. I’m here to talk about what we can learn about our own leadership style based on our personal reaction to that moment. In this article, I explore a common leadership need to 'shave off the edges' to help people fit in the box and 'do better at work'. But are we really helping?